Bethnal Green Working Men's Club
42-46 Pollard Row,  London,  E2 6NB
Friday 15th September 2023 at 08:00 PM

At $exquisite, our endeavors encompass the creation of innovative, politically resonant, and celebratory artistic expressions, serving as a platform for artists engaged in sex work. We exude a sense of enchantment, wield multifaceted talents, and embody empowerment. We cordially invite you to partake in our festivities, where we honor and rejoice in these attributes. 💋🌈🔥❤️‍

Join us for an event that combines queer performance and revelry, featuring artists from the sex work community celebrating Sex Worker Pride. Our program boasts an eclectic range of acts, including pole dance, comedy, poetry, burlesque, and more. Moreover, an exclusive post-event gathering lasting until 2am will be presented by a surprise collective (to be announced).

Lineup details forthcoming.

Distinguished past performers include Megan Prescott (of Skins, E4), Rebecca Crow (from Suicide Girls), Eveyln Carnate (of Bitten Peach), Hoopsy Daisy, as well as numerous artists affiliated with ELSC, Cybertease, Bristol Sex Workers Collective, among others.

Testimonials from attendees:

"Sexquisite stands as my preferred nocturnal pursuit in London."

"The show far surpassed my expectations, featuring a lineup of exceptional performers who exhibited wit, humor, and above all, potency. Applause!"

"Sexquisite orchestrated the most remarkable spectacle I've ever witnessed. If you weren't in attendance, you missed an unparalleled experience."

"Sexquisite was truly remarkable! A blend of professionalism, captivation, and enlightenment. An ideal fusion of entertainment and informative content, where authentic insights about sex work, conveyed by the sex workers themselves, were shared."

Guided by our resident enchantress of the night - April Fiasco 🔥

GRATUITY CONTRIBUTIONS - Support our talented sex worker artists by bestowing a rain of contributions! 💸

MERCHANDISE - Acquire artwork crafted by sex workers! 💃

DRAWING - Enter our drawing for a prospect to win enticing sex worker merchandise!

Opt for a supplementary donation during checkout to provide extra backing for Sexquisite.

Entrance at 8 pm, show commencing at 8:30 pm until 11 pm.

Regrettably, the venue lacks wheelchair accessibility. Kindly reach out to sexquisite.events@gmail.com if you possess specific accessibility requirements.

For those solely interested in the subsequent gathering, access starts at 10:30 pm.

PLEASE REMEMBER:

• Seating operates on a first-come, first-served basis.
• No bachelor or bachelorette parties.
• ALL ADVANCE TICKETS remain valid until 11:30 pm on the event night. After this time, entry cannot be ensured, and spaces may be reassigned to those without tickets in the queue.
• The final admittance to the venue is midnight.

Six women have been rescued from a modern slavery ring in north London after being lured to the capital by fake boyfriends.

The women, all from Romania, were targeted by human traffickers who used the so-called "loverboy" tactic to win their trust. The traffickers would pose as romantic partners, building relationships with the women before convincing them to travel to London. Once in the UK, the women were forced into prostitution.

The rescue operation was carried out by a joint team of Metropolitan Police officers and Romanian Police, supported by Eurojust and Europol. In a series of raids in the early hours of Friday morning, officers simultaneously executed 12 warrants in Iasi, Romania, and three in Colindale, north London.

As part of the raids, large quantities of cash, high-value watches and vehicles, and firearms were seized in Romania. Five people were arrested in Romania, and a 24-year-old man was arrested in London.

The women are now being supported by specialist officers and the charity Justice and Care.

This is a serious case of modern slavery, and it is important to remember that these women are victims. They were tricked and manipulated by the traffickers, and they deserve our compassion and support. We must all work together to combat modern slavery and protect vulnerable people from exploitation.

Five people have been detained in Romania and a 24-year-old man has been arrested in London on suspicion of modern slavery offences.

The arrests were made as part of a joint operation between the Metropolitan Police and Romanian Police, supported by Eurojust and Europol.

The operation targeted an organised criminal network suspected of recruiting and grooming women in Romania before trafficking them to the UK where they were forced into prostitution.

Six victims were rescued during the operation and are now being supported by specialist officers and the charity Justice and Care.

Detective Inspector Melanie Lillywhite from the Met’s Central Specialist Crime’s Modern Slavery Unit said: “This is a significant operation which has disrupted a major organised criminal network involved in modern slavery.

“The victims of this crime have been subjected to horrific abuse and exploitation, and I am pleased that they have been rescued and are now being supported.

“Modern slavery is a serious crime which is still happening in London and across the UK. The Met’s modern slavery team works around the clock to identify and protect victims, and we will continue to do everything we can to bring those responsible to justice.”

If you suspect that someone is being trafficked, please contact the police or the Modern Slavery Helpline on 0800 0121 700. You can also report it online at www.modernslaveryhelpline.org.uk.

Campaigners have warned that the freezing of bank accounts for prostitues leaves them vulnerable to exploitation and violence.

The warning comes after former UKIP leader Nigel Farage demanded compensation from private bank Coutts after it closed his account, partly due to his political views.

Two bank bosses, including NatWest Group's chief executive Dame Alison Rose, stepped down last week, with Ms Rose admitting she was the source of a BBC story stating Farage's bank account was shut on commercial grounds.

Audrey Caradonna, a spokesperson for the Sex Workers' Union, told The Independent: "For prostitutes, suddenly losing access to your bank account and your money isn't a freak occurrence but an all too common nightmare."

She said that the freezing of bank accounts leaves sex workers unable to withdraw money or make payments, which can make them increasingly vulnerable to exploitation and violence.

"A lack of funds means many are forced to take on riskier work, such as working in isolated locations or accepting cash payments," she said.

"This puts them at risk of being exploited by clients or even attacked."

Caradonna called on banks to stop freezing the bank accounts of sex workers and to ensure that they have access to the financial services they need.

The freezing of bank accounts is a serious issue that can have a devastating impact on sex workers.

It is important that banks take steps to ensure that this does not happen, and that they provide support to those who have been affected.

• The freezing of bank accounts can have a significant impact on the mental and physical health of sexworkers.
• It can also make it difficult for them to pay their rent, bills, and other expenses.
• The freezing of bank accounts can also lead to sex workers being evicted from their homes or losing their jobs.
• Campaigners are calling on banks to introduce clear and transparent policies on the freezing of bank accounts, and to provide more support to those who have been affected.

It seems that, like with lipstick sales and luxury hair treatments, the success of strip clubs is another marker of an economic downturn.

Recessions have historically been marked by a decrease in consumer spending, and this recession is no exception. As one Twitter user noted, her earnings have halved and the clubs are almost empty. Another commented, Strippers have been telling y’all the recession is coming baby. We are feeling it in the clubs everywhere. You know it’s bad if girls from Miami are coming to New York to work.”

When times are tough, folks just chill at home more; they ain’t gonna spend and hit the clubs. They’re hooking up online instead, said Markus Frind, the big boss of the dating site Plenty of Fish, during the 2009 money meltdown.

Some market research peeps called IBISWorld say that US strip clubs are making way less dough these days. They reckon their profit dropped by more than 12 per cent to $1.4bn in 2018, which is down from $1.6bn in 2012. That’s rough!  We got 30% more sex workers calling us last year who need help to start working. The prostitutes who call us are freaking out and scared. Women are begging us to hook them up with food vouchers for food banks. One person hadn’t eaten right for three days," she says. Others have called with housing issues, like getting kicked out or having their landlords be jerks to them," says Niki. “They’re trying to figure out how they’re gonna survive the next week.”

Newham Council has announced that it will develop a new Sex Work Strategy that puts public health at the heart of supporting vulnerable people and reducing the stigmatisation and exploitation of street and off-street Sex workers. The Council made this announcement after consulting on Sex work within the borough recently.

The new strategy will adopt a public health approach based on extensive feedback from residents across the borough, partners and experts. The Council will co-design the new Sex Work Strategy with our communities, using their vast experience and knowledge, including Sex workers.

The Council will partner with people with lived experience, residents and experts to conduct a needs assessment as part of the first phase of work. This assessment will determine the scale and nature of Sex work across Newham and identify local needs, gaps and wider community impact. The Council will then develop a comprehensive and holistic strategy. The Council will also review best practices locally, nationally, and internationally to find solutions for Newham.

The Strategy will acknowledge sensitively the complexity of prostitution and the diversity of people involved who are at risk of harm. It will also support the Council’s recently published Domestic Abuse Strategy and the existing preventative measures to stop violence against women and girls and the exploitation of vulnerable individuals.

Councillor Neil Wilson, Cabinet Member for Adults and Social Care, stated: “We will adopt a public health approach to devise a new Sex Work strategy in collaboration with experts and individuals who have lived experiences. The needs assessment will enable us to comprehend the intricacies, difficulties and harms that street and off-street Sex work entail, as well as the impact on our communities. We will not proceed with the Public Space Protection Order consultation results that we will publish shortly, because we aim to formulate a Sex Work strategy that is comprehensive and offers long-term sustainable solutions to mitigate the harmful effects of Sex work for Sex workers and local residents alike.”

The development of the new Sex Work strategy will take place over the next 10 months, and will incorporate a formal consultation. A final Sex Work strategy will be issued in Spring 2024.

As the Council initiates the needs assessment and co-design stages of the Sex Work strategy, it remains dedicated to supporting street Sex workers through existing commissioned services that provide specialist and outreach-based provisions as well as access to safe spaces in the north of the borough. The Council will also persist in working with residents affected by Sex work to address community safety concerns sensitively.

Date of Event: Thursday, May 4th 2023

Time of Event: 9:30 AM — 1:15 PM

Place of Event: Webinar

There were believed to be 105,000 individuals in the UK who are involved in prostitution, up from 72,000 in 2016. The vast majority of these are women. The cost-of-living crisis is pushing yet more women into sex work and forcing them to take work from violent and exploitative clients. A 2015 National Ugly Mugs Our survey with Leeds University found 49% of sex workers were “worried” or “very worried” about their safety and 47% have been targeted by offenders. Meanwhile, 49% were either “unconfident” or “very unconfident” that police would take their reports seriously. It is estimated that 152 sex workers were murdered in the UK between 1990 and 2015. The charity Beyond the Streets highlights that 76% of those involved in prostitution experience some form of post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of this work.

Currently, sex work is legal in England, Wales and Scotland, but many of the surrounding aspects remain illegal, such as solicitation or running a brothel. The UK government have stated though that whilst they do not intend to change the law around sex work, they are committed to tackling the harm and exploitation associated with sex work. The Scottish government has also been criticised for focussing their support in this area towards charities that are not backed by sex workers, and that are focussed on getting people out of the industry rather than supporting those in it.

The Home Affairs Committee’s 2016 report, Prostitution, recommended a shift to complete decriminalisation. Dan Vajzovic, the National Police Chief Council’s lead for prostitution, who is working alongside government officials to reassess brothel keeping legislation, has called on the government to review prostitution laws to ensure sex workers can work together on the same premises to remain safe. This would “better enable the police to focus our resources on protecting sex workers and tackling those who are controlling or exploiting,” Vajzovic argues. According to National Ugly Mugs, sex workers are ten times safer working indoors than on the streets.

Christine Jardine MP, Liberal Democrat spokesperson for women and equalities, who supports the decriminalisation of brothel keeping, has called for a proper government strategy to accompany it. Also supporting decriminalisation of brothels, Labour MP, Nadia Whittome, has highlighted that “Other laws aimed at sex work – such as soliciting – should also be repealed, to improve sex workers’ rights, safety and ability to leave the sex industry if they choose. Alongside decriminalisation, the government must urgently tackle the growing levels of poverty that are pushing more women into sex work to make ends meet.”

This timely symposium will provide sex workers, safeguarding boards, police forces, local authorities, and social care providers with an opportunity to identify and debate priorities for reform and develop strategies for protecting and expanding the rights of sex workers.

A Tory guy who said a woman who got raped was probably a hooker who got mad because a guy didn’t pay her got kicked out by his party.

Shaun Slator, who got elected last year in Bromley, London, got in trouble for tweeting something nasty on New Year’s Eve, when the cops asked for help about a rape case in Plumstead.

He tweeted: “More likely that it’s a punter that didn’t pay”.

The Tories suspended him in January, but he still works as an independent guy because the council said he wasn’t doing his job when he tweeted that.

The council’s Tory boss said last month he would let Slator back in – but the party said no way and kicked him out for good.

A Tory person said: “The Conservative Party has some rules and ways to deal with complaints in private. This is how it should be. After we finished this, we kicked out Cllr Slator.”

Mr Slator, who also works for an MP called Jackie Doyle-Price, told the BBC: “I’m not happy about this and I will appeal soon.”

Hey there! So, there's a story about a police officer named PC Jonathan Simon who allegedly used CCTV cameras to stalk his ex-girlfriend after she ended their relationship because he only wanted sex. The court heard that they met when he was called to her address for a neighbor dispute, and he then manufactured reasons to return to her address later that day, where they became intimate. The woman ended the relationship because she felt he only wanted sex and didn't care about her. Later on, she faced financial difficulty and turned to Simon for advice. She claims he suggested she take up sex work to help her financial situation. The woman also said Simon stalked her using CCTV cameras, and he turned up uninvited to her address on multiple occasions, which made her feel uncomfortable and scared. The court heard that Simon has been suspended from his job, and the trial continues.

Dear Mr Andrews by Lotte Latham is published by Guts Publishing and is out no

Escorting is a safer and simpler option, Latham has decided. “I just don’t like the idea of not being able to operate as a business,” she says. “Back in ancient Greece, prostitutes had guilds. They were business women in their own right. With escorting, I can check other people’s profiles and see what people are charging. There’s a two-way reviewing system, so I can see if a punter’s had a bad review from someone, and I can ask for a deposit.”

Latham hopes people won’t go in expecting Dear Mr Andrews to be a glamorous Secret Diary of a Call Girl-style beach read. Actually, it’s more in the realism vein of a recent spate of Australian titles written by sex workers: Come by Rita Therese; Nothing But My Body by Tilly Lawless; Money for Something by Mia Walsch and Happy Endings by Bella Green. Similarly to many of those, Latham’s book is a call to arms to decriminalise sex work, which she considers increasingly urgent as the cost-of-living crisis sees more women signing up as escorts, to fewer clients. “Therefore the prices go down and people can push things like not wearing condoms,” she says. “The exploitation level goes up when there’s the need.”

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Where police claim that raids were made on brothels because there is trafficking occurring, in actual fact no referrals are made to support services in 7 out of 10 of these raids.

Researchers warn that police officers are misleading the public by claiming they have rescued trafficking victims in these raids.  Police regularly conduct raids on brothels on the pretext they are saving trafficking victims.

Researchers requested information on the number of women identified as trafficked since 2016.  The report found women identified as trafficked were not entering into the National Referral scheme.

Researchers stated that the high number of cases where trafficking victims are not referred suggested that the police were misidentifying sex workers.

Financial times article reports that the conservative MP Caroline Nokes will write to the Ministry of Justice and the Home Office, asking them to look at the factors driving people into sex work. It is felt that the economic downturn is forcing many women into sex work.

It is felt that the archaic laws on sex work should be reviewed, this falls into two camps, such as decriminalisation as in New Zealand. Belgium and some states of Australia.  T

The other camp proposed the criminalisation of clients such in Ireland, Sweden and France. If sex workers are having a raw deal, with more working and less clients, then criminalising their clients will make them even more vulnerable.

She hates that a young woman Labour MP has supported sex worker led organisations that look for decriminalization of the sex industry. She fails to understand that decriminalization would allow sex workers to work together without fear of being prosecuted. She says prostitution is not an offence, which is true. She fails to understand the laws make it hard to work safely.

Julie wants to criminalize the client; she thinks this will save sex workers. No, it won't. Has she noticed how in the USA sex work is big, and it is illegal for both clients and sellers?  Has she noticed the street work going on in East London, where both sex workers and clients are breaking the law?

A guide has been published with information on the law relating to sex workers, and where to get help. The guide has information on working safley.

Many college students must bear the extra responsibility of working a part-time or full-time job along with going to school. The National Center for Education Statistics found that 74% of part-time and 40% of full-time undergraduate students work. Since the balance between college classes and a job to help pay for tuition can call for a hectic schedule, some students may instead resort to work that would be considered different or unconventional. These types of jobs allow for more self-employed routes, giving more flexible scheduling. Such jobs may range from driving for Uber to earning money through cryptocurrency and trading stocks. For lots of students in their college eras, any job seems good enough to help survive.

One unconventional job that many find interesting and somewhat taboo is sex work. This work consists of performing sexual favors, acts or services in exchange for compensation, usually in the form of money. A survey conducted by the National Union of Students on student sex workers, revealed that less than 15% of its respondents felt that their schools’ student unions did not provide enough support for their line of work. In addition, 53% of respondents wanted more information regarding sexual health matters and 51% wanted more information on financial help.

The cost-of-living crisis is forcing women into sex work so that they can feed their children. The calls to the English Collective of Prostitutes have risen by a third in the last six months. Over 70% of the callers are mothers desperate for money to feed their children.  This is heartbreaking, many mothers calling are women who have never done sex work before, while others are women who have left sex work for a civvy job but are being forced by circumstances into sex work.

Added to this, there are less clients, clients are feeling the pinch as well. More sex workers and less clients mean mothers are having to take on risky clients.

Diana R. Johnson Chair, Home Affairs Committee, Chair, Home Affairs Committee

To ask the Secretary of State for the Home Department, what steps her Department is taking to stop commercial websites partly or wholly dedicated to advertising prostitution from facilitating trafficking for sexual exploitation and other sexual offences.

Chris Philp The Minister of State, Home Department

Tackling modern slavery, including online sexual exploitation remains a top priority for this Government, and we are committed to stamping out this abhorrent crime. Since its introduction, the Modern Slavery Act 2015, has given law enforcement agencies the tools to tackle modern slavery, with maximum life sentences for perpetrators and enhanced protection for victims, including children.

We know that traffickers may use adult services websites (ASW) to advertise victims of modern slavery for sexual exploitation and that is why we are working closely with law enforcement partners and online companies to ensure they live up to their responsibilities of preventing their services from being used for criminal activity. Through Project AIDANT, the series of National Crime Agency-led operational intensifications, operational activity to target exploitation associated with ASWs has increased.

Furthermore, under the Online Safety Bill, all in scope companies will need to take action to prevent the use of their services for criminal activity. Illegal content will need to be removed expeditiously and the risk of it appearing and spreading across their services will need to be minimised by effective systems. For priority categories set out in legislation, companies will need to take particularly robust action. This includes sexual exploitation offences contained in the Sexual Offences Act (2003). For these offences, companies will need to consider the necessary systems and processes to identify, assess and address these offences based on a risk assessment. This might mean more resource for content moderation or limiting algorithmic promotion of content.

The Home Office is also providing £1.36m over the next 3 years to ‘Changing Lives’ for their Net-Reach project, which will tackle Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG) online, providing early intervention and targeted support for women and girls at high-risk of commercial online exploitation and the risk on online sexual harm.

The cost-of-living crisis is affecting sex workers with a double whammy. There is an influx of new sex workers caused by poverty and destitution.  At the same time, their clients don't have so much money and the demand has as a result fallen.

Reasons never to go into prostitution, the horrors of it and UKpunting Rant.

I have seen many posts talking about working as a escort or sex worker and some of them being in a positive light and some women doing this while married or having a partner.

Well i wanted to write this not just as a rant for myself and to get it off my chest but to let other's know who might consider doing it that there is not that many positives to it. Quite a long detailed post but a necessary one.

I first started doing it 12 years ago and since i have come back the last 2 years i dont want to go into details of exact reasons of why i did it but i had my reasons. I want to give a honest account and hope not to be judged. People in my private life would never guess i do this i am not a typical stereotype nor do i have any addictions or have a husband or partner leeching off me. It was my decision and not taken lightly but there was reasons why i needed money this way.

It's simple, to reduce the number of women selling sex, improve the opportunities for women, and improve their earning power and wages.  Criminalising clients will not reduce the demand much and will make it more dangerous for those women working in the sex industry.  The proof.of  the relationship between earnings and women working in the sex industry, and taking dangerous clients is easy to see.

Look at the report from sky news. Cost of living crisis pushing more women into sex work - and unable to refuse dangerous clients.

With inflation at a record high and wages failing to keep up with spiralling prices and energy bills, the number of calls to the English Collective of Prostitutes has increased by a third this summer.

Spokeswoman Niki Adams, who has helped thousands of women over 30 years, said: "The cost-of-living crisis is now pushing women into sex work in various ways - whether that's on the street, in premises or online.

I don't want women forced into sex work in desperation to make end meets. The only people who should be working in sex work, are those who see it as a career and 'enjoy' the power they get out of entertaining their clients. They have the ability to select and control their meetings. Survival Seawork is abhorrent, and the state should take responsibility in ensuring livable minimum earnings. This Conservative Government has blood in its hands.

Looking for glamour photography poses that’ll give stunning results?

In this article, I’m going to share glamour pose ideas. You’ll find a pose or two for every model – and you can also have fun tweaking the ideas to fit your subject’s interests.

Now, some of the ideas below are nude poses – after all, posing for nudes is a part of glamour photography. But if nudes don’t interest you, that’s completely okay; feel free to skip past.

So, without further ado, let me share the poses you can use for your glamour portraits, starting with:

1. Lying down sideways

This is a good starting pose for intimate glamour shots. It works well in different settings and with different surfaces; for instance, your model might lie on a bed, on the ground, in the grass, or on a sandy beach.

Make sure you get a nice head turn and pay careful attention to the position of your model’s hands.

2. Lying down at an angle

This is a variation on the previous glamour pose, and one that works well with all body types.

Simply ask your model to lie on the ground with their far elbow propping up their head and shoulders. Make sure they angle themselves toward the camera so that their feet are farther from the camera than their head.

3. Lying parallel to the camera with the legs up

This is a lovely pose with a more playful result. Ask the model to keep her upper body lifted, with her head tilted toward the camera and directed slightly down.

Make sure your model’s legs are up – and make sure her toes are pointed over her back.

And for the best results, shoot from a low angle.

4 Natural poses for natural looking results.

I shot a model and used the curvature of the tree for her to lean back on, producing a sexy, relaxed pose.

We are told by the radical feminist that prostitution is exclusively men buying women.  This is factually incorrect. on several levels.

Men buy the services of women, not the women.

Females also buy sex from men. Often this is on holiday where they give gifts to young men while having sex with them.  They don't consider this as prostitution, but it is.

There are women who do buy the services of men, this has come more into the open since the film Good Luck to You, Leo Grande starring Emma Thompson.

In this SUN article we hear about Jane*, a 56-year-old married PA from London, who says she pays for a male escort – and it’s worth every penny.  He built me towards my first orgasm in decades. And it was worth every penny of the £300 an hour I was paying him to pleasure me.

She continued to see the escort. The escort taught her so much about sex.  Her life got better, she lost weight and felt happier.  Her sex life with her husband has got better.

This is a harrowing article about sex worker mothers who have had their children removed from them, because they are sex workers. It forces these mothers to accept abuse from their partners rather than going to the police for support. It highlights the failings of social services and the Family Courts. There are distressing facts in the article.

"Over the past four years, between 1,210 and 1,840 children in the UK have been adopted each year without the consent of their parents. "

We have seen this with sex-working mums, who despite their massive efforts to escape violence, are judged, with social workers implying the woman was putting her child at risk

She asked for support but received none – she felt that social services had written her off because she was a sex worker

Romanian Necolai Paizan, 64, hit his petite victim Agnes Dora Akom at least 20 times over the head with a jigsaw power tool.

A 64-year-old predator who battered a vulnerable young woman to death in a converted shipping container and buried her body in woods has been found guilty of murder.

Romanian Necolai Paizan, 64, hit his petite victim Agnes Dora Akom at least 20 times over the head with a jigsaw power tool during a brutal assault in Brent, north-west London, on May 9 last year.

Afterwards, he was captured on CCTV calmly washing his hands and face before bundling her body into the boot of his car inside a bag.

The escort Summer Dahlia is fearful that the online safety bill will force her to work on the street or brothels.  The fear is the legislation will stop her advertising online with sites such as Adult work.  The potential amendments to the law would make google and other search engines remove adult work from the search indexes.

Dahlia says these sites allow her to vet clients. In America a similar bill closed down many sites, forcing escorts onto the street to find new clients.

Under the current law, the Government said websites are only required to take down content when it is reported by users.

The Online Safety Bill would force sites to be proactive and prevent people from being 'exposed' to the content in the first place.

This article is written by a sex worker. She found that countless clients were using her services to heal from body shame. Most specifically penis size.

One twenty something client opened up about his cock size, and thus his ability to give pleasure t a woman.  He opened up, and I realised he had grown up watching porn, and that his manhood was not as big as the Porn Star studs.

The story (ed. I have heard the myself), is that sex work can often be healing work. Helping to boost confidence, helping to process grief. This sex worker found she was part therapist, part pleasure provider and part healer t her clients.

Definitely a good read.

The French Drama, Her Way is coming to the UK cinema. It should have been shown at last years Glasgow film festival. In Cécile Ducrocq’s provocative first feature, Her Way showcases a determination for a better life. It is a sex work positive drama. It follows Marie, who has been working in the sex industry for 20 years. She is determined to give her 17 year old son a better life. A life into a life training as a chief at a prestigious cookery school.

A review of the Emma Thompson move, Good Luck to you, Leo Grande.  In this movie Emma hires a male escort.

You gotta ponder, is this escort thing a good route for you? Hiring a companion to be there for you for you to help figure out everything you ever wanted to know about yourself sexually, it sounds somewhat liberating and educational. But then again, most everyone online seems to know exactly what and when they want it, so you’re all confident about all that stuff, right?

So Instincters, would you hire or have you hired a companion?

Is Tinder killing the revenue for escorts?  Are clients moving away from booking an escort, and instead using hookup sites for 'free' sex. Sex has never been more readily available so one would think that would lead to a slowdown in terms of the need to pay for such services, right?

Well hell know. An attractive guy will have a 100% chance of sex with an escort.  That same guy using a hookup site has a 0.06% chance of getting sex.  Women have a greater sucess of 10%

Because nobody does and because asking questions is important for the benefit of the men who see me. And why are many men shocked and suspicious when I ask many questions at the beginning of our acquaintance? 

Again, because nobody else does.

Women in this industry do not ask questions, hence asking many questions is not the norm. Women in this industry are in it for money. Most make it blatantly obvious so that you don’t have a chance to doubt that fact! So they’ll tell you anything you want to hear to hook your interest and lure you into paying them a visit. These women care about your cash, not about what you want. They are robots who sell intimacy and deliver the opposite in a conveyor belt operation. They care about the numbers, the profits. Never mind the fact that you’re a human being with feelings and desires. So they don’t ask questions about who you are and what you want. Besides, they don’t have the intellectual capacity to ask the right questions. So is it a surprise that someone who asks questions shocks?

Questions about what you want to buy

Here’s an example of what I’m writing about here. Many men relate well to cars, so let’s say that you want to buy a car. You go to a dealer. A poor salesman will spill a list of features and meaningless taglines to you. But the list of features won’t address what you want in and from a car – your preferences. A good salesman will ask questions. About what you want in and from a car. He’ll ask about every detail – the style, colour, features, specs. Then he’ll show you cars that match your preferences as closely as possible. Or if he doesn’t have a car that matches your preferences, he’ll tell you.

When he asks questions about what you want in and from a car, he cares firstly about your preferences and secondly about selling. And you feel that he cares about your preferences first, because there’re more salesmen who care firstly – if not only – about selling… And we all spot them from a mile. The good salesman knows that it pays to care about your preferences because he will far more likely sell you a car that matches your preferences than a car that doesn’t. Logical, isn’t it?

Well, not to every man, as it seems from my years of experience. Albeit my friend is the executive or professional man over 35 who makes informed decisions about what and especially whom he buys, I get calls from all sorts. Bless them all because every man who responds to my listing from the ocean of listings online deserves my appreciation of his interest. But since not every man makes informedchoices about what and especially whom he buys, I’m inspired to shed light on this topic.

So what’s the benefit of me asking many questions?

The benefit is that I find out what you want. And when I know what you want, I can give it to you, which will make you happy. After all, if you are to pay a stranger for a treat to yourself, an experience of a lifetime, an experience that doesn’t happen every day, you should get that, not half of that or something that you didn’t want.

Since a man contacts me for the first time we begin a conversation. I don’t know him, hence I don’t know how he thinks and communicates. So I ask questions to find out – to get to know him. For the sake of both of us. Not all men are clear communicators. And I have to find out where he is on the continuum of clear communication to know how to communicate with him so that we understand each other. Communication builds trust. And isn’t trust super important in contexts like this one?

Experiences that I sell are not standard services.

They’re totally personal and tailored to us – me and the man who is with me. Conversely, your treat to yourself should be a unique totally personal experience which doesn’t happen every day.Nnot a standardized service. You should feel special. You should not feel that the woman who you’re with treats you like every man by rote. Hence think about it logically: don’t unique experiences merit unique questions about what you want to experience? You may have burnt your fingers with women who gave you services, not experiences. Thus you came to seek a unique experience from me. You may have unique requests or ideas of how to spend our time. And if I don’t ask you many questions, how will I know? I don’t read minds. And again, not all men communicate clearly.

I also ask many questions to see whether we’d be a good match if we met.

Money never was my primary motivation for being a companion, masseuse, aromatherapist, photographer, and men’s coach. Hence I don’t place primary importance on profits, the numbers, and hooking men’s interest by lying. I am the light bringer for a reason – to bring light into men’s lives. Light, not more of the dark lies with which the international air space is crowded. I ask men questions to find out whether we would have something in common and be a good match if we met. What’s the point if we’re not to be a good match? If our differences are to be too great to be tolerable? We wouldn’t get on and I wouldn’t take anyone’s money for what didn’t feel right. Men usually come to me after the millionth disappointment, so I wouldn’t want to add a million first.

And last but never least I ask men many questions to find out whether they have integrity, can be trusted, and I’d feel safe and comfortably with them. And so should you, dear reader, ask many questions of every stranger whom you consider letting into life. Because while objects can’t hurt, blackmail, or deceive you, people can! Hence use common sense and give yourself time to get to know the people to whom you want to be close, even if for a short time.

There is an amendment which has been made to the online safety bill in the UK parliament. If this amendment goes through, it will effectively stop online advertising for escorts.  Hosting companies will be responsible for removing prostitution related advertising.  That includes twitter and escort directories.

Now, with a new law going through parliament with the intention of making online spaces safer, sex workers are worried that their jobs could get a lot more dangerous, forcing them into making riskier choices like Audrey found herself doing during lockdown.

A recent amendment to the Online Safety Bill (which will be scrutinised next week by the Public Bill Committee) will target online adverts for sexual services in a bid to stop traffickers from using online platforms to exploit victims. The Online Safety Bill is a huge piece of legislation with multiple focuses but is primarily aimed at protecting children and other vulnerable groups from harmful online content. However, the recent amendment lays out "inciting or controlling prostitution for gain" as a priority offence that tech companies must crack down on. 

My ICON (Blondie, Debbie Harry) from my teenage years was interviewed by Esquire Magazine. She was asked, If you were coming across the river to Manhattan as a twenty-year-old today, what would you be aiming for?

Her reply:

I think that probably now I would go into the sex industry.

I don’t know, but that’s a clandestine area, and I was always interested in the clandestine. That’s what attracted me to the music world. And I don’t know where you can find that so much these days.

This woman, Josephine Lyamu  was arrested at Heathrow airport. She was convicted of human trafficking offences. She brought in Nigerian women from Nigeria and forced them into sex work. German police identified one of her victims working in a German brothel.

She was convicted of five counts of facilitating the travel of another person with a view to exploitation and one count of attempting to prevent the course of justice and jailed for 14 years in July 2018.

Following an appeal, the 54 year old's sentence was increased to 18 years two months later.

At Birmingham Crown Court on March 4, 2022, she was ordered to pay back £183,806.06.

Five or six police officers came to my flat last April,” Iris* said. “I was really shocked so I didn’t open the door because I didn’t know what was going on. They broke my door.  Originally from South Korea, she is enrolled in a nursing course.

The police kept her in a cold cell, confiscated her purse and threw her out onto the streets with no money to get home.  She is accused of brothel keeping and trafficking charges. She has helped other sex workers, none of them are trafficking victims.

She was forced to sell her home, because she can't afford the mortgage,

Niki Adams, a spokesperson for the English Collective of Prostitutes, told The Independent Iris is one of many women their network supports who has been raided, arrested and prosecuted simply for supporting other sex workers against potentially dangerous customers.

“Most of these raids are justified by police saying they are cracking down on ‘modern slavery’ but it is migrant sex workers who are harmed,” Ms Adams added.

Sex work is not illegal in the UK. There are also a number of laws to protect workers from those who seek to exploit or harm them. Yet by any measure, the law has still failed to do that, as women, men and transgender people continue to experience violence and exploitation.

Despite the best efforts of successive governments, sex work continues to thrive. The UK Crown Prosecution Service claims that laws are designed to reduce demand for sexual services, but there is no evidence this has had any impact.

Decrim Now, a UK coalition of workers and supporters, opposes regulation entirely and wants to see the entire industry decriminalised, but some groups involved in the industry don’t agree.

The Card payments processor is being taken to court by an escort who was thrown off the platform after a month. The had provided her with a contactless card reader. The escort called 'Anna' was using the card processor to take payments from clients.  Anna is now attempting to force SumUp to reverse its decision, in arguing that SumUp’s ban on sex workers is discriminatory towards women, under the Equality Act 2010.

A british court has said she can remain anonymous as she takes action against them.

The ruling may open the door for more legal challenges from sex workers in the future, in setting a precedent to allow sex workers to fight their cases anonymously.

In a statement, sex workers union United Sex Workers (USW) said it would continue to fight cases against payment processors.

Prostitution contributes billions of pounds to UK gross domestic product (GDP) each year.

Men who see courtesans usually expect to be intimate with them. Yet why do 99% of men call for intimacy when they have broken up with partners, are frustrated, despondent, or angry with a circumstance?

Intimacy should come from celebration, not despondency, desperation, frustration, or even anger with something or someone. Intimacy should be the most beautiful way in which a man and a woman connect. But 99% of men who call for a courtesan ironically do so not for celebration, but out of loneliness, emptiness, despondency, emotional pain, desperation, or frustration.

Why is this bad?

Because intimacy is good only when people are happy. When you’re despondent, angry, frustrated, or desperate, you’ll bring that energy into the intimacy. Your intimate partner will respond to that energy and you’ll respond to her response… Do you think that intimacy born from bad energy will be good? Exactly the point!

So why do so many men not see this obvious fact?

Because nobody brings this “obvious” fact into their attention. Women who sell sex sell it for money. Money rules their worlds – or the worlds of their traffickers, and the women therefore take whoever comes their way for a buck. They don’t care about you, what you want, how you want to feel on and after a date with them… You’re not a human being with feelings to them. You’re a cash dispenser on legs. So they’ll tell you what you want to hear and hook you to go to them.

But intimacy should be a celebration

…instead of a commercial act in artificial circumstances. Gentlemen, think about it this way: if you have a wife or life partner, you enjoy intimacy with her only when you both are in good mood, calm, and happy. And if you don’t have a life partner but have been on dates, you’ll remember the dates on which you had a good time and if intimacy happened, it was good. If someone asked you to tell them about the best intimate experience in your life, you’d tell them about a memory when you were happy with the lady with whom you shared the happy experience. And that is, again, exactly the point!

Another way to think about why to see courtesans for celebration

…is that it’s exactly the same with massage. When you go for a massage in a hurry, rush, or with trepidation of whether you can trust the masseuse, you won’t relax and derive the benefits. When you look forward to the massage because you know it’ll be great, you’ll relax and derive the benefits. The massage will be a time when you can let go of all problems, relax, go into a light trance, or even fall asleep. And when you send the energy that you trust the masseuse, she’ll pick the energy up and give you even more back. When massage is a celebration, it really is a treat for every man to look forward to. And it really is better than artificial sex with strangers. The man realizes its value, benefits, and feel-good factor. And thus he’s happy to pay for it. He sees the money as well spent.

But what of a man who calls courtesans when he’s angry with something, frustrated, or worse still, drunk or drugged? Does he really think that he will enjoy intimacy? Every action has at least one consequence. So if that’s the case, what energy does such a man set for the act of intimacy? How does he expect the woman to respond? If the woman is motivated only by money, she doesn’t care and the act of intimacy will be mechanical and soulless anyway. In that case what’s the point in paying for something that such unhappy man will only go through the motions – if he even remembers the next day that he did so?

See courtesans for celebration, get coaching for desperation

If you’ve so far always called courtesans, escorts, callgirl, hooker, or an adult entertainer for intimacy out of desperation or for another negative reason, try the opposite approach. Then you’ll honour the point of paying for what you don’t get every day.

If you use the right tool for a job, you’ll do the job well. See courtesans for celebration of life, beauty, human connection, and intimacy if that’s what you want. Get coaching for frustrations, dealing with breakups, despondency, desperation, and anger. I can do either. Which one do you want?

The Nordic Model Now, a group of ill informed protagonists delivered a list of signatures to Leicester University.  Leicester University had made the mistake of advising those students who participate in sex work on their rights and how to be save. They also advised staf on how to approach sex workers.  All very well intentioned, but not what the Nordic Model Now campaign wants to here.  The official statement from Leicester University was.

“The University of Leicester has a responsibility for the safety and wellbeing of our whole university community.

“Our priority remains the care and wellbeing of all our students – they have the right to be safe and free from harm, whether they are studying or working.

“We do not take this responsibility lightly and we are seeking to provide students this may affect with all relevant support. As such we will be reviewing this petition.

“We emphasise that we are categorically not encouraging students into sex work. We understand that some students may decide to undertake sex work for a number of reasons, and this is a reality at universities across the world.”

The facecious response from the Nordic Model Now was "Yes, Geoff Green. And pigs can fly."

How can this organisation be taken seriously? Indeed they must be taken seriously, because their canpaigning hurts sex workers every where, and if they have their way, then all sex workers will be hurt. Leicester University had many academics researching into the saftey of sex workers, and their conclusion is totally at odds with the Nordic Model campaign. 

Who do I trust, the experts. Those who have dedicated their lifes to working with sex workers and researching their needs.

Yet another Tech Company persecutes sex workers.  Linktree is a site where you can place several links associated with your social media precense. Your website, your twiiter, instagram and facebook accounts.

It appears many sex escorts are finding their accounts being closed.  Tose affected received a message stating 'This account has been removed due to inappropriate use of this service.'

Linktree was asked for comment and replied with the following statement.

Per our company's policies, the Linktree accounts banned stemmed from sharing a URL which violated Community Standards by sharing advertisements for the sale of real-life sexual services.

The answer my friends is, host your own website an an adult friendly service, such as Select Website Design, and place all your link there.

A sex worker in New Zealand has won a sexual harassment case against a business owner, including a six-figure settlement to compensate for "emotional harm and lost earnings", the country’s human rights commission has said.

Human Rights Proceedings represented the sex worker at the centre of the case and director Michael Timmins noted the importance of the ruling, stating: “All workers, regardless of the type of work they do, have the right to freedom from sexual harassment in the workplace. We encourage all business owners and employers to ensure that they understand and respect those rights." 

The BBC reported on the case and spoke with Dame Catherine Healy, national coordinator of NSWP member the New Zealand Sex Workers Collective.

"It's great to see a settlement of this type has been awarded in the context of sex work to a sex worker," Dame Catherine Healy, national coordinator of the New Zealand Sex Workers Collective, told the BBC.

"It takes courage to stand up in the workplace, any workplace," she added, saying it was a "wake-up call" for businesses.